I am so excited to introduce our next Self Love Story! Meet Kerry!
Kerry has been such an important part of our community pretty much since we opened downtown Toronto. Let’s dive in and hear about her story…be ready to be inspired!
“I am a Communications and Fund Development Manager for a not for profit during the week and a Bridal Hair and Makeup artist on the weekends, because I need as many creative outlets as possible. I love Halloween and creating costumes, throwing themed parties for my friends and singing karaoke at the top of my lungs. My whole life I have felt like I am “too much” but I’m beginning to see that as an asset instead of a flaw.
I think the path to self-love is non-linear, it’s two steps forward and one step back often (and that’s OK). I have long been told I seem “so confident” or “brave” for just existing and being myself in a large body but when you live in a world that tells you that you are undeserving of love, respect and autonomy because of your body, it’s often a challenge to ignore the self-doubt and insecurities.
Something I have learned is that self-love requires ongoing work, there is no final destination or level of self-love you can reach and then the work is done. It’s a process and it does get easier – something that has helped me is seeking fat acceptance education and weight-neutral health sources and following media and content creators that help me see others in bodies like mine.
The most significant factor is having a community of caring, generous, and funny women that I have at Fitness by Sarah Taylor. When you surround yourself with supportive people who genuinely share in the excitement of your successes, it provides space for you to see your own value and self-worth.
I have learned a lot about what my body is capable of by being part of this community. Seeing others set goals and receiving encouragement for your own goals without the intention of weight loss is a game-changer. Thinking of your body as this amazing and strong instrument instead of something that needs to be fixed or altered changes the way you see the world and your place in it. Being surrounded by women who understand this and are on the same path is so special.
Being part of something bigger than myself has always helped my confidence and feelings of self-esteem and I get that with our community, who not only support each other but are always looking for ways to help others outside of the fitness studio and in our communities. Having a sense of purpose has always helped lead me to feelings of self-esteem and confidence.
The community at Fitness by Sarah Taylor has gone beyond the parameters of just fitness – I have had so much emotional support from everyone, including Sarah. It’s nice that when you don’t even see it yourself that someone notices when you’re not feeling 100% and wants to support you in the capacity that they can.
If I could share one thing with someone who was trying to embark on the journey to self-love I would tell them …
You have been conditioned your whole life to think one way about your body and what it’s worth, be patient with yourself when you are trying to unlearn all of that stuff. The road to loving yourself is complicated and you might still have negative thoughts about yourself. The most radical thing you can do is just show up for yourself every day.
And for fun…my favourite class at Fitness By Sarah Taylor….who am I kidding, I actually really enjoy all of them, Admirable Arms makes me feel a badass weight lifter and Beautiful Bootyfull makes me feel like I have thighs of steel and Fearlessly Full body makes me feel like the whole package!”